I know - this is the post you've all been waiting for :-) I alluded to my thoughts on push presents a little while ago, but realized that I never came back to it so here it is!
Push Presents. For those of you who haven't heard of the concept, according to Wikipedia, the definition of a push present is as follows:
A push present (also known as a "push gift" or "baby bauble") is a present a new father gives a new mother when she gives birth to their child. In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room. The giving of push presents has supposedly grown in the United States in recent years.
Wikipedia refers to a 2007 survey of 30,000 which concluded that 38% of new mothers received a push present, and 55% of pregnant mothers wanted one, though fewer thought it was actually expected.
So that's that - a push present is a way for a dad (or partner) to commemorate the birth of their baby.
In cruder terms, he "thanks" the mother for "pushing" a baby out of her va-jay-jay.
So does that mean c-section moms don't get one?
Of course, the concept of a push present has been around for eons, although it wasn't called a 'push present' nor was it expected. My mom told me that my dad gave her something to commemorate the birth of each of me and my sister. Although I am pretty sure she didn't give him a list or send him to a site like this: http://www.pushpresentideas.com/
I think that push presents are similar to the "Right Hand Ring". Something that has existed for years but that some super smart marketing people put a name on, played on women's emotions and took credit for the idea.
Anyways - here are my thoughts on push presents. They are all over the place - you've been warned.
1. Like most presents, they'd be best if they didn't have to be asked for. Realistically, I'd say most women fantasize about their husband/partner showing up at home after the baby is born with a little something that he just WANTED to give you because you were such a hero throughout the pregnancy/birth.
You know - something like this :-)
GEEZ that Tiffany marketing is amazing. And how gorgeous is that baby?!
2. The name "push present" is kind of gross and crass.
3. I think that dad's/partners would feel a lot better about giving a token of appreciation/commemoration if they didn't feel like some marketing maven was forcing them to do it. Kind of like how a lot of men have issues with Valentine's Day - feeling like it is a 'Hallmark Holiday' that they are forced to participate in.
4. Like my attitude about Valentine's Day, just because some marketing genius took over and started making it sound like a push present is a 'must have' doesn't automatically mean it is a bad thing. To me, there is something very sweet about a woman who has something that was given to them for their baby's birth. It doesn't have to be Tiffany (not saying that it can't, of course :-) but something thoughtful and enduring seems to give the gift more meaning in my opinion.
5. I've only been through about 23 weeks of pregnancy and watching what is happening to my body for our family is definitely making my support lean towards the YES side of giving a push present. Dude. Sure, our bodies are miraculous things that really seem to be built for this, but OMG this is a lot of change. I haven't even hit the super uncomfortable stage or the 'ring of fire' stage. At that point I'm sure I'll be pointing at that Tiffany ad and growling at my husband (sorry babe). I'm a sucker for marketing. What can I say :-)
So now tell me - what do you think of push presents? Did you get one? Would you want one? Expect one? Think the whole thing is gross?